You’re Not Letting Your Future Self Down

I think one of the loneliest places to live is between who you are and who you might become.

That’s where so many multipassionates get stuck —
trying to be loyal to a future that hasn’t happened yet.

There’s a quiet kind of guilt that grows there. Like a weed. Or a cactus.

It doesn’t shout.
It doesn’t panic.
It whispers fearfully: 

What if I regret this later?
What if future-me wishes I had chosen differently?
What if this costs me something I don’t see yet?

So you pause.
You hesitate.
You keep waiting for a version of certainty that never arrives.

And from the outside, it looks like procrastination —
but on the inside, it feels like love.

You’re trying to protect a version of yourself who doesn’t even exist yet.

A Story From Inside That Pattern

A woman in my student community — I’ll call her Maya — once told me she had three ideas she loved:

A small design studio
A personal writing project
A wellness certification

She liked all of them.
She felt called to all of them.

But she couldn’t choose.

Every time she leaned toward one, her mind would flash forward:

What if future-me wishes I had focused on the other one?
What if this delays the real path?
What if I regret this when I’m older?

So she kept researching.
Kept organizing.
Kept “preparing.”

But never moving. How often have you felt anxiously stuck, right?

Eventually she realized something heartbreaking:
She wasn’t protecting her future.
She was never giving it anything to grow from.

Why Future-You Guilt Hits Multipassionates Harder

You don’t just have one possible future.

You can imagine:

• Six careers

• Ten lifestyles

• Twenty versions of who you could become

That makes every choice feel like a door slamming shut.

So instead of choosing, you hover in the hallway — afraid to disappoint someone you haven’t met yet.

But here’s what most people don’t tell you:

Your future self isn’t fragile.
Your future self is adaptive.

They are not waiting for a perfect past.
They are built from real experiences.

The Truth About Regret

Regret doesn’t come from choosing the “wrong” thing.

It comes from:

• Not learning

• Not growing

• Not building self-trust

Future-you won’t wish you had chosen differently.

They will wish you had given them something real to work with.

Please Please Please Keep This in Mind

Instead of asking:

“Will this ruin my future?”

Ask:

“What would this give my future self to stand on?”

Skills
Confidence
Patterns
Clarity
Resilience

Those things only come from movement, not perfection.

What Maya Did Next

Maya didn’t pick forever.

She picked next.

She chose the design studio for one season.
Three months.
One focused container.

At the end of it, she didn’t feel trapped.

She felt stronger.
Clearer.
More capable of choosing again, with confidence, knowing what she's picking is NOT the be-all end-all and it never needs to be.

Her future didn’t shrink.
It expanded — because now she trusted herself.

Quick Reminder:

Your future self is not asking you to be flawless.

They’re asking you to be brave enough to live.

They don’t need the perfect choice.
They need a past that took chances, learned deeply, and kept going.

You don’t honor your future by freezing.

You honor it by becoming someone who can adapt.

You've got this,