Why You Feel Behind (When You’re Actually Not)

If you’ve ever considered yourself to maybe be a tiny bit multipassionate... you probably know this feeling in your BONES:

Everyone else seems to be moving in a straight line…
while you’re moving in spirals, zigzags, loops, and quantum leaps. But you're not sure you've gone forward at all...

Some days you feel unstoppable.
Other days you feel like you’re “behind” in life — behind in success, behind in clarity, behind in some invisible race everyone else seems to be running.

Here’s the truth you’ve never been told:

Multipassionates don’t move slower.
We move differently.
And because our path isn’t linear, it looks like we’re behind even when we’re actually miles ahead.

Let me explain. 💛

The Illusion of Being Behind

Most people grow like a straight line — hobby → skill → job → promotion → retirement.

Multipassionates grow like a constellation.

You learn something here.
Get curious about something else over there.
Circle back to an old skill.
Stack it with a new one.
Leap to the next.
Pivot again.

At first glance, it looks chaotic.
But step back — you’ll see a pattern, a shape, a trajectory.

You’re connecting dots other people don’t even see.

And that “slowness” you shame yourself for?
It’s actually incubation — the part of the process where your next breakthrough is forming beneath the surface.

Think of bamboo:
It grows underground for years… then shoots up feet at a time.

Multipassionates are bamboo people.

But the world is full of oak-tree expectations.

You’re Not Behind — You’re Gathering Power

When you feel “behind,” you’re often actually:

• Integrating past experiences

• Refining your identity

• Healing burnout cycles

• Testing multiple possible paths

• Absorbing data faster than you can process it

• Preparing for the next expansion

This isn’t stagnation.
It’s preparation!

One of my students once told me, “It looks like I’m doing nothing… but my brain is in a full-blown strategy meeting.”

Your thinking time counts.
Your curiosity counts.
Your redirections count.

Multipassionates don’t run late — we arrive aligned (honestly, 80% of my students are usually a little too early, with 20% arriving way late...feels like nothing in between, it's hilarious)

The Real Reason You Feel Behind

Nobody ever taught you how your mind works.

Everyone else gets roadmaps and ladders.
You get fireworks and kaleidoscopes.

But here’s the reframe:

You’re not scattered — you’re multi-layered.
You’re not slow — you’re cyclical.
You’re not behind — you’re building.

Your growth is stacking, even when it’s invisible.

If You Need a Quick Reset, Try This:

Ask yourself:

“If nothing in my journey has been wasted… what am I actually building right now?”

You’ll feel your shoulders drop.
Your breath soften.
Your mind widen.

Because suddenly, you’ll see the truth:

You’re not behind at all.
You’re right on schedule for a life that isn’t linear — it’s expansive.

And you’re just getting started.

Lots of love,