The Quiet Grief of Letting Go of Old You

As we come to the end of this year, I want to note that amidst the celebrations and excitement and fresh resolve...there’s also a certain sadness that doesn’t announce itself.
It isn’t loud. It doesn’t come with dramatic tears or declarations.

It’s quiet.

You might feel it most when you notice:

• You no longer resonate with an old hobby that once defined you.

• A friend laughs at an old habit and you don’t.

• You realize the goals you chased for years no longer feel like yours.

This is grief.
It’s the mourning of an old version of yourself — and it’s completely normal.

Why Multipassionates Feel It Deeply

Multipassionates collect versions of themselves like treasures.

There’s the Artist You.
The Learner You.
The Side Hustler You.
The “Maybe Thought” You.

And then, slowly, you evolve. Some of these selves become less central.
You outgrow them.
You shed them like old skin.

The problem? We often treat letting go as failure.
A sign that we “wasted” time or made the wrong choice.
We beat ourselves up for leaving behind something that once mattered.

Grief Is a Sign of Growth

Here’s a perspective you may want to consider: grief isn’t a flaw — it’s a signal.

When you feel the pang of letting go, it’s evidence that:

• You are evolving.

• You are moving toward alignment.

• You are making space for something bigger than what used to fit.

Imagine pruning a tree.
The cuts sting at first, but each one allows sunlight to reach new branches.
Your grief is the sting — your future growth is the sunlight.

How to Let Go Without Losing Yourself

1. Name the Version You’re Leaving

Write down who they were, what they loved, and what they taught you.
Say thank you.
Closure is a loving ceremony, not a punishment. 💛

2. Hold Space for Mixed Feelings

You might feel relief and sadness at the same time — that's okay.
Grief is not a straight line; it can be a bit more like a wave. Let it wash over you without judgment.

3. Anchor Yourself in the Present You

Identify what you are now.
What lights you up today?
What aligns with your energy and curiosity?
Your new self deserves attention, too.

4. Keep the Lessons, Release the Labels

You don’t need to carry old identities forward.
Take the wisdom, leave the pressure, and let the outdated narratives fade naturally.

5. Celebrate the Freedom

Each version you release frees your energy for what’s next.
Your passions, creativity, and curiosity expand when you let go of what no longer serves you.

A Gentle Reminder

Multipassionates: you are layered, evolving, and endlessly curious.
Letting go isn’t a loss — it’s a gift to yourself.

Grief isn’t the enemy.
It’s your compass.
It shows you that you are alive, learning, and growing.

Honor it, move through it, and step into your next self with love.
I'm here for ya,